Mom: “Come eat breakfast” as I set the table with their eggs and sausage. The children sit down and eat. There is laughter and giggles. After eating, as we are all cleaning the kitchen, I noticed my son suddenly was still sitting at the table with a solemn look on his face.
As I observed, I noticed he was really fighting back tears. I say, “what’s the matter, baby? Are you okay?” He nods, yes. I keep cleaning the kitchen until I just cannot take it anymore. I go over to him and he tells me he misses his friends, school and the routine.
WHOA! Being completely honest, my son is in a safe house, has technology, air condition, heat, television, online classes (high school), has access to plenty of food, and has his family with him. I knew all of this, but I still failed to ask him how he was feeling since abruptly being snatched from school and the outside world due to the COVID19 pandemic.
What a learning experience! I had made sure he had everything he needed, but I never asked him, “how he was doing” since the school closure. Now, every day, I make a point to ask my son, “how are you?” I make a point to take a walk with him and keep him on a schedule. He was previously on a schedule, but now more than ever, it is extremely important they have consistency.
At a certain time in their lives, our children may finally be confident with who they are and look forward to going to school, making decisions and displaying their leadership skills. When it is all taken away in a matter of days, the mental health of our children can be at risk. We often are concerned that we stay in shape physically, but don’t forget we must be sure our children are in shape mentally.
Many employers now are offering mental health services free of charge. I encourage all to take advantage of this benefit if you have it. Also, do not underestimate the power of some sunshine. My friend, Stacey wrote, “Go Outside! 10 Ways to Enjoy the Outdoors During the Lockdown.” I encourage you to visit this blog. Find it here.
We are all in this together. Let your children know!
Raising Little Brown Children 